dormouse
(veteran)
12/13/00 00:18 AM
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Re: Getting sex bored
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jeremys--caves of delight?! Wow, that's as good as "thermometer of love".
FUBAR--I guess it has to do with the male desire to procreate and spread his genes throughout the entire female race, but I suspect Dormouse will have a few differing opinions on that....let the male bashing begin.
No, that sounds perfectly reasonable to me. I just wonder what excuse the horny women have?
ICE COLD--But i would like to know if some guys or girls around have to go "cheat" once in a while to appreciate more their regular sex or life "partener"?
If that's cheating, then so is using sticks to play hockey. More like the occasional extra person is essential ro we'll go nuts... not that I get bored. Variety is the spice of life, but I'm hardly starving without it.
As for all the discussion about celibacy, I payed attention in high school, and one day one of the science teachers was writing on the blackboard the essentials of life;
food, water, sleep, shelter, etc. And sex was in there. So I decided to go with that idea, get the essentials, then worry about other things.
And since "school" wasn't on the list, I eventually stopped going so's I could stay in bed...
-the mouse
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Scurvy
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12/13/00 04:45 PM
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Re: Getting sex bored
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*ROFL*
Dormouse, I'd ask you to marry me, but my girlfriend would probably kill me.
8-)
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http://www.lore.com/~scriven/Opinions/Drugs
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ICE_COLD
(old hand)
12/13/00 04:54 PM
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Re: Getting sex bored
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Hi Dormouse,
Going out, well having sex, with other parteners while having a stable relationship seems to be a must for me. It defenetely makes me more appreciate my girlfriend when i come back to her. But i feel guilty towards her, well there is always a price to pay!!!
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Violetsoda
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12/13/00 09:48 PM
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Re: Getting sex bored
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i think this might be one situation where the "outside party" could really lose out.
and by losing out i mean that it could all backfire very easily if certain cautions aren't put into place.
i totally agree with dormouse on this one. as a person who has trouble maintaining anything past a
casusual (more than casual, less than always) relationship it is important to me too.
i think that it's also about trust. you're saying, I trust you enough to know
you won't fuck *us* up through this. and to me, that level of trust is the
ultimate foundation for a relationship.
-violet
He shifted his weight from foot to foot, but it was equally uncomfortable on each. -Douglas Adams
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ICE_COLD
(old hand)
12/14/00 04:40 PM
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Re: Getting sex bored
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Violetsoda,
I do agree with you about the trust between two lovers. I just wish that i can find a girl with a more open mind to sexual activities so that we can both have different sexual adventures once in a while without hidding it!
In fact i once had a liberated relation with a girl but after a year she got jelous about my other sexual relations and she could not handle it anymore. I did not have many other relations, well maybe 3 times a year and so did she, but i guess she finaly wanted to keep me for herself.
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Violetsoda
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12/15/00 12:45 PM
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Re: Getting sex bored
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i just believe that relationships need 2 things: trust and respect. if your partner really loves, respects and trusts you
then the relationship can be made into anything. i don't think someone should go looking for "a girl with an
open mind", but rather a girl they can love (for now).
but why take advice from me? i'm TERRIBLE at these things....
-violet
He shifted his weight from foot to foot, but it was equally uncomfortable on each. -Douglas Adams
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ICE_COLD
(old hand)
12/15/00 04:46 PM
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Re: Getting sex bored
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Violetsoda,
Even with trust and respect it does not mean that a relashionship would be "adequate" for both parteners. I might or my partener might have some needs that the other one is not ready or will never be ready to accept! So it is a good start but there is a lot more into life than just that! Like i said trust and respect is the basis to ANY true relashionship but if they were the only important factors i would be making love to my friends, my neightbors, my boss, etc........ Well just my toughs!!!
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Violetsoda
(stranger
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12/15/00 07:58 PM
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Re: Getting sex bored
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keep in mind that i am speaking idealistically. personally, i could never commit myself to someone that i couldn't completely commit myself to, rain or shine, fidelity or whatever. that's probably the root of why i find dating boring.
mamakind has spoken before about soulmates, maybe i'd like them to be real... maybe i already know who mine is
and it feels pointless to be with anyone else (even though it isn't). wouldn't it be nice if everyone could find someone who perfectly complimented them without pissing them off? ah well... i'm getting too sucky now. let's get back to talking about sex, ok?
He shifted his weight from foot to foot, but it was equally uncomfortable on each. -Douglas Adams
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