lil_Smokie
(member)
1/3/01 01:30 PM
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Early Orgasms...
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Ok...I should probably be talking to a sex therapist, but then you guys would miss out on the laughs...
Here's the problem. I can't seem to hold back the goo longer then like 5 minutes. Unless i'm on 5 perc's or any other skin numbing analgesic. I keep my woman happy with the oral approach. And she's a little lazy, she only likes to go one time(but she's like a clock every day!).
Is there anything I can do to go longer? Drug, herb? I only need another 5 minutes(she's almost as easy as I am)I've tried the thinking of something else game. That moved me from 3 minutes to 5 minutes. I'm too focused. Oh yeah...we've been together for 7 years(married 1 year), so its not that I'm too anxious.
Viagra just helps you get it up, right. I don't have that problem. I could have sex for weeks or until it fell off.
Oh and yeah I smoke a lot of weed before, during and after sex most of the time. Disclaimer - This statement added to legitamize my posting in this area.
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somena_chick
(newbie)
1/3/01 03:04 PM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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This is not a laughing matter - and deserves a
serious response:
There are a few things you could try.
1 - try a condom. It reduces sensation, and might prolong
things.
2. If you dont feel like adding latex to your sex life..
Get a LOT of lubricant, as this can also reduce friction
and some sensation, without feeling like you are wrapped
in a glove.
3. There are some excercises you can do on your own to
train yourself. Like - start stimulating yourself, but
before you reach orgasm, make yourself stop. Do this
3 times - and then let yourself orgasm. A nice side-effect
to this is that I've been told, and experience
bears it out- that if you, as a man bring yourself
close to climax, but then stop.. and then come back
shortly later - your orgasm is more intense.
4. Practice having sex, without moving a lot. Tantric
sex. Where - the only movement is internal .. as in
she's bearing down on those kegel muscles and you
are flexing that muscle right below your scrotum.
See how long you can stay locked in position like that
just enjoying the sensation of being joined
And ONE VERY BIG bit of advice
Talk very openly with your partner about the situation
but WHEN you ARE not in the bedroom.
Oh - and don't worry about always trying to hold out.
Make a time in your week - so that you can relax
and just have a quickie.. Discuss this with your
partner -
When sex gets to feel like its an obligation, or
something you are not doing *right* it creates
problems later on.
Good luck
Hope it helps
Meaghan
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ynos
(journeyman)
1/4/01 04:30 AM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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I still don't understand what the problem is?
Are you complaining or is she?
Your getting laid on a daily basis.
Right away I'm thinking of the scene from "Something about Mary"
Where he pleasure himself before he goes on a date.
It may help you since you indicated that you want to have more then one orgasm a night.
The other is a technique from the karma sutra.
Where you enter your women, stay still and enjoy the sensation for a minute, before moving. Then when you feel like you ready to explode. Withdrawal, fondle your women, calm down a bit and repeat.
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lil_Smokie
(member)
1/4/01 06:37 AM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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Thanks guys...I'll try the Karma Sutra thingy. There's no big problem. We are both very open and discuss things all the time(before, during and after). If anything its mostly me. I'm a horn dog and like to please my woman. We are compatible in all ways except for some strange reason she only likes to go once. We all got our quarks. Lubrication isn't a problem. She gets pretty juicy when we do it.
Somena-Chick - You brought up another reason why I would like to go longer. Better orgasm for me. Only problem is that if I keep starting and stopping she loses the rhythm. Maybe electro-shock therepy? Just kidding! LOL... I don't think she really cares anyway... She worries more about the next crop.
Ynos - You sound like her. She says, "How many women do you know who would put out everyday and not use the "I'm not in the mood", excuse?" She's the coolest! Probably cause I keep her doped up..hehehe.
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MerryJane
(enthusiast)
1/4/01 09:01 AM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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Your "problem" can be "cured" by taking almost any of the SSR anti-depression drugs such as Prosac, Paxil or Zoloft. One of the side effects of these drugs is delayed orgasm. Most people stop taking it because of this but it is now being prescribed to successfully treat your "poor
timing problem". Almost any doctor will be happy to give you a 'script, just tell them you're de-
pressed if you don't feel like going into the details.
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lil_Smokie
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1/4/01 09:23 AM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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I knew there was a drug for me! There's a drug for everything. Thanks MerryJane. Ya' know my neighbor's name is Maryjane. I'm assuming thats not your real name. Anywho...My friend is on an anti-depression, she had to build it up in her system. Do you think I will too, or is that for people with actual depression probs? If you don't know I'll soon find out... Do you know if wellbutran(sp) is an SSR?
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somena_chick
(journeyman)
1/4/01 09:42 AM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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Ah ok.. Gotcha
You want to provide your partner with orgasm - via
regular sex, instead of oral sex all the time.
And I don't doubt that she doesn't complain.
Many men don't want to do that kind of work, when
you are apparently a ready and available toungue man.
Ok...
Now that *is* a connundrum
And I can see why theres difficulty.
If you have to start stop start stop... then she's not getting the steady action she needs to get off
How bout asking her to manually stimulate herself while
you are in her?
Or you could do the same thing...
Or get her really worked up orally - and then go for the
3 minute finish..
Just some suggestions
Hope it helps
PS - I would avoid
anti-depressants as they not only increase
ejaculation quick problems.. they also decrease
sexual drive and provide other side-effects which
I doubt you would like.
MWW
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lil_Smokie
(member)
1/4/01 11:09 AM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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Well actually its both of us. She wants a little more regular sex, but I really like the oral, so its not me being lazy. She says its more work to get off. It may be shes lazy and doesn't feel like getting off and knows how fast I am. I'll show her! You woman are tricky.
We do the 3 minute finisher. Works pretty well... Would you say its close to the same as if she had got off on my wee-wee(hee-hee...I said wee-wee) the whole time?
Well I know for a fact percoset works. They're really hard to come across.(good pun) I'll try the A-D once and see. No worse side effects than LSD or Meth I assume. And they're easy to get.
I bet half(probably 99%) of the guys on this board think I'm a retard. And maybe I am, I just like the tables to be even and my woman to be happy. That makes me happy, which makes her happy. Happy, Happy, Joy, Joy...
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panama
(member)
1/4/01 11:43 AM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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No Lil smokie you are not retarded lol.There many guys in the same little boat as you, I for one. after time it passes comes back and so on. Maybe its time for some big girl toys.
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lil_Smokie
(member)
1/4/01 12:33 PM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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Big girl toys...hehe...thats me! Shes all nature and stuff. Doesn't wear makeup, I cut her hair and she doesn't like toys or any non-human elements near her thingy. She doesn't even like me to wear a condom. But we're married and been together for 7 years, not much to worry about.
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