lil_Smokie
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1/3/01 01:30 PM
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Early Orgasms...
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Ok...I should probably be talking to a sex therapist, but then you guys would miss out on the laughs...
Here's the problem. I can't seem to hold back the goo longer then like 5 minutes. Unless i'm on 5 perc's or any other skin numbing analgesic. I keep my woman happy with the oral approach. And she's a little lazy, she only likes to go one time(but she's like a clock every day!).
Is there anything I can do to go longer? Drug, herb? I only need another 5 minutes(she's almost as easy as I am)I've tried the thinking of something else game. That moved me from 3 minutes to 5 minutes. I'm too focused. Oh yeah...we've been together for 7 years(married 1 year), so its not that I'm too anxious.
Viagra just helps you get it up, right. I don't have that problem. I could have sex for weeks or until it fell off.
Oh and yeah I smoke a lot of weed before, during and after sex most of the time. Disclaimer - This statement added to legitamize my posting in this area.
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somena_chick
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1/3/01 03:04 PM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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This is not a laughing matter - and deserves a
serious response:
There are a few things you could try.
1 - try a condom. It reduces sensation, and might prolong
things.
2. If you dont feel like adding latex to your sex life..
Get a LOT of lubricant, as this can also reduce friction
and some sensation, without feeling like you are wrapped
in a glove.
3. There are some excercises you can do on your own to
train yourself. Like - start stimulating yourself, but
before you reach orgasm, make yourself stop. Do this
3 times - and then let yourself orgasm. A nice side-effect
to this is that I've been told, and experience
bears it out- that if you, as a man bring yourself
close to climax, but then stop.. and then come back
shortly later - your orgasm is more intense.
4. Practice having sex, without moving a lot. Tantric
sex. Where - the only movement is internal .. as in
she's bearing down on those kegel muscles and you
are flexing that muscle right below your scrotum.
See how long you can stay locked in position like that
just enjoying the sensation of being joined
And ONE VERY BIG bit of advice
Talk very openly with your partner about the situation
but WHEN you ARE not in the bedroom.
Oh - and don't worry about always trying to hold out.
Make a time in your week - so that you can relax
and just have a quickie.. Discuss this with your
partner -
When sex gets to feel like its an obligation, or
something you are not doing *right* it creates
problems later on.
Good luck
Hope it helps
Meaghan
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ynos
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1/4/01 04:30 AM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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I still don't understand what the problem is?
Are you complaining or is she?
Your getting laid on a daily basis.
Right away I'm thinking of the scene from "Something about Mary"
Where he pleasure himself before he goes on a date.
It may help you since you indicated that you want to have more then one orgasm a night.
The other is a technique from the karma sutra.
Where you enter your women, stay still and enjoy the sensation for a minute, before moving. Then when you feel like you ready to explode. Withdrawal, fondle your women, calm down a bit and repeat.
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lil_Smokie
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1/4/01 06:37 AM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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Thanks guys...I'll try the Karma Sutra thingy. There's no big problem. We are both very open and discuss things all the time(before, during and after). If anything its mostly me. I'm a horn dog and like to please my woman. We are compatible in all ways except for some strange reason she only likes to go once. We all got our quarks. Lubrication isn't a problem. She gets pretty juicy when we do it.
Somena-Chick - You brought up another reason why I would like to go longer. Better orgasm for me. Only problem is that if I keep starting and stopping she loses the rhythm. Maybe electro-shock therepy? Just kidding! LOL... I don't think she really cares anyway... She worries more about the next crop.
Ynos - You sound like her. She says, "How many women do you know who would put out everyday and not use the "I'm not in the mood", excuse?" She's the coolest! Probably cause I keep her doped up..hehehe.
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MerryJane
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1/4/01 09:01 AM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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Your "problem" can be "cured" by taking almost any of the SSR anti-depression drugs such as Prosac, Paxil or Zoloft. One of the side effects of these drugs is delayed orgasm. Most people stop taking it because of this but it is now being prescribed to successfully treat your "poor
timing problem". Almost any doctor will be happy to give you a 'script, just tell them you're de-
pressed if you don't feel like going into the details.
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lil_Smokie
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1/4/01 09:23 AM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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I knew there was a drug for me! There's a drug for everything. Thanks MerryJane. Ya' know my neighbor's name is Maryjane. I'm assuming thats not your real name. Anywho...My friend is on an anti-depression, she had to build it up in her system. Do you think I will too, or is that for people with actual depression probs? If you don't know I'll soon find out... Do you know if wellbutran(sp) is an SSR?
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somena_chick
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1/4/01 09:42 AM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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Ah ok.. Gotcha
You want to provide your partner with orgasm - via
regular sex, instead of oral sex all the time.
And I don't doubt that she doesn't complain.
Many men don't want to do that kind of work, when
you are apparently a ready and available toungue man.
Ok...
Now that *is* a connundrum
And I can see why theres difficulty.
If you have to start stop start stop... then she's not getting the steady action she needs to get off
How bout asking her to manually stimulate herself while
you are in her?
Or you could do the same thing...
Or get her really worked up orally - and then go for the
3 minute finish..
Just some suggestions
Hope it helps
PS - I would avoid
anti-depressants as they not only increase
ejaculation quick problems.. they also decrease
sexual drive and provide other side-effects which
I doubt you would like.
MWW
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lil_Smokie
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1/4/01 11:09 AM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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Well actually its both of us. She wants a little more regular sex, but I really like the oral, so its not me being lazy. She says its more work to get off. It may be shes lazy and doesn't feel like getting off and knows how fast I am. I'll show her! You woman are tricky.
We do the 3 minute finisher. Works pretty well... Would you say its close to the same as if she had got off on my wee-wee(hee-hee...I said wee-wee) the whole time?
Well I know for a fact percoset works. They're really hard to come across.(good pun) I'll try the A-D once and see. No worse side effects than LSD or Meth I assume. And they're easy to get.
I bet half(probably 99%) of the guys on this board think I'm a retard. And maybe I am, I just like the tables to be even and my woman to be happy. That makes me happy, which makes her happy. Happy, Happy, Joy, Joy...
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panama
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1/4/01 11:43 AM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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No Lil smokie you are not retarded lol.There many guys in the same little boat as you, I for one. after time it passes comes back and so on. Maybe its time for some big girl toys.
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lil_Smokie
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1/4/01 12:33 PM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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Big girl toys...hehe...thats me! Shes all nature and stuff. Doesn't wear makeup, I cut her hair and she doesn't like toys or any non-human elements near her thingy. She doesn't even like me to wear a condom. But we're married and been together for 7 years, not much to worry about.
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Bozo169
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1/5/01 05:04 AM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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SSRI's prolong the time it takes to ejaculate but does not increase the intensity of the orgasm. That takes practices. Or masturbate a hour beforehand.
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Dana Larsen
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1/12/01 01:22 PM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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While jerking off, practice building towards climax and then holding off. This will build endurance.
Squeezing tha base of the cock can slow the appraoch of orgasm.
Slow dow during intercourse, and imagine the orgasmic energy flowing inwards from your cock, and up your spine into your brain. Breathe deeply and move slowly until the feeling of imminent orgasm passes.
You might be interested in this look at the orgasm:
http://www.universal-tao.com/FAQ/healing_love.html
Dana Larsen
Editor, Cannabis Culture Magazine
ccmag@cannabisculture.com
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smokingman
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1/26/01 04:12 AM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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don't get into it for yourelf but for her.try thinking of something that not a big turn on. not to much dont want to kill the mood but enough so you have to work for it
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Liquid_launch
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1/27/01 10:05 PM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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Ok three things I think you should do, Well I think they help me(only really need them when it's been a week or more).
This is the absulute best thing for me try to get shitfaced with her before, just a little word of warning though this does decrease the amount you will both be aroused and remember your mouth might not be the only dry thing. However it does seem to give you more control, the problem might be getting YOURSELF there.
Have you tried having her on top? (married for one year so probably so) this will help but not as much as weed.
My final suggestion is to have you on top, now around the pubic region (on you) if you feel it, it's really hard(pubic bone?) now the idea of this is while your on top kind of grind this against against the same region on her(*Warning* a full Bladder will make this uncomftabale) In my experence(not much at all) this will make you last alot longer and she'll probobaly enjoy this one alot.
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devoid
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2/27/01 11:58 AM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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see this happened to me ewith my girlfriend and all she did was blame it on the fact that i smoked weed...
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north
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2/28/01 10:35 PM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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My husband is a 'minute man', 'two-pump chump'....you know the kind, ahemm(obviously). I don't mind a bit. You know, she will appreciate it in the long run. Imagine doing it e v e r y single day for like an hour or more? You always want what you can't have. I think that mj just intensifies it more.
Anyways ALL the women I know(including myself) would appreciate a quicky since your doing it soooo often.
Please do not take anti-depressants. I am weaning myself off of them as we speak and it is awful. Plus not only does it take you forever to have an orgasm, it makes you think of sex and want to vomit profusely. (You can see why i'm weaning) I do know that cocaine can make you go forever(from previous boyfriend experience).
And yes, women are the sneakiest.
north
Dogs are the uninhibited creatures we might be if we weren't certain we knew better.
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insurgent
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3/4/01 08:36 PM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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NOTE: THIS POST IS SOMEWHAT GRAPHIC, PARENT'S COVER YOUR CHILDREN'S EYES NOW
It sounds like the BIG problem is that she's not getting off and that the brevity of the act is somewhat less important. Wouldn't you be just as happy if you both got there in 5 minutes as if you slammed away at her for an hour first?
Try a new method. If you're like most guys you go at it pretty rough. That's how we are, it's in our nature. You squeeze her breasts and drive hard during intercourse. But women aren't pick-up trucks, they weren't built for that kind of abuse. Not only does it not do the job, but it can actually hurt.
Instead, try being exactly the opposite. Before the actual act be incredibly gentle. Pick any random body part and just barely touch it. Run your fingers along her so gently you barely know you're touching her. Take your time, explore, but always be gentle.
Then move to her breasts. Don't drive straight for the nipple, put that off for a while. Do the same thing here, gently touch and caress. Don't squezze paw or rub. Be sure not to jump the gun, but after a bit of that you can play with her nipples.
This is another one we screw up a lot. They're sensitive body parts, not rubber bands or your dog's chew toys. Soft touching and extremely sensitive sucking. This is a fun place for both sexes if done properly, so enjoy yourself, don't rush. But when it's time, it's time. . .
Now you're ready to do the act itself. The biggest mistakes are made here. What do we usually do? We push that thing in as hard and deep as we can and then repeat for as long as we can. God are we stupid.
Consider the texture of your wife's vagina. It's pretty soft hun? And what's your penis like? Yeah, it's hard. Now consider taking any soft part of your body and ramming it into a brick wall over and over again. That wouldn't be too comfortable to say the least. This is what it feels like for them (or so I've been told). So consider how you'd like the soft parts of your body treated.
First, take your penis in hand and rub it along the outside of her vagina. Yeah, the outside counts too! Do not enter her. Use the tip, go long ways and use the shaft, etc. Do this until she's begging you to dive in, then do it some more. Don't feel rushed, always take your time. When you feel she's desperate enough you can enter. . .
But not all the way! Just the head of your penis or about a half inch. Edge it in there nice and slow, then take it out. This is love, not violence. . . keep it gentle. After a while stop taking it out entierly, but get close. Once you've done this a while you can go deeper, but only about another half inch. Repeat as needed then go another half inch. Getting the idea?
Keep this progressive action up until she's about to explode, but no matter what DO NOT GIVE HER YOUR FULL LENGTH and do not get frantic and violent. You should be going nice and slow the whole time. If you run out of penis before she's ready that's okay, just keep it up but don't go all the way, leave the base part out.
Keep up the same pace during her orgasm. Don't speed up and don't revert to violence. Slow and steady wins that race. If you can hold back your orgasm and keep going (don't worry if you can't, it's difficult)she'll have another in a minute or two! Subsequent orgasms will come much faster and will be even more intense.
If this is done correctly you can make her cum within 5 minutes of when you start in on her vagina. Of course you could take a lot longer, but that was your original problem anyway, right?
As mentioned above, you can quit and then start again. When she's about to orgasm stop cold. Just walk away. Go smoke a bowl and watch football. Or even better hang out in bed and talk, but NO SEX for at least an hour. When you start up again it will come amazingly fast and so strong it will blow your mind.
Some women are so used to being beat up in bed that they don't take to this right away. Just get her to cooperate once and if it doesn't work you don't have to do it again. But I promise you it will, otherwise I've seen some pretty convincing lies.
insurgent
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KY_Bluegrass
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3/5/01 03:42 PM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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If I feel like I'm gonna cum before my wife,I slow down and start thinking of ways to improve my golf game. It works like a charm,except as soon as I'm done,I'm ready to hit the golfcourse for a round of 18. Peace,
KY
"There are things known and things unknown and in between are the Doors..." Jim Morrison
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Simon
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3/8/01 07:35 AM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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I really think that the "thinking about something else" trick is not really healthy. It makes sex more of a chore or something you have to worry about. Best to focus on what's going on and use some more proactive solutions. I'm not a real "stayer" but I've found that a few good tokes right before sex keeps me going longer and is very pleasing. It adds a kind of sureal (sp?) quality to everything.
Cats like the chronic too!!
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love420
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3/8/01 12:59 PM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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When I smoke some bud and have a glass or two of wine with it (or a couple of beers), I have found that I can last almost forever. You might want to give it a try.
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dick_duck
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3/22/01 09:13 AM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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As stated briefly in an earlier post. If you relieve yourself shortly before your love session with your wife you will last longer and have more control. You can also strengthen your resistance muscle by starting and stopping pissing using only genital muscles when that call arises. When you wake up and have a raging piss hard on and do this exercise you will quickly understand why this exercise is so effective. Good luck in your quest for longevity.
Richard Canard,
Up to 55% chance I'm right. Research!
No Turn Left Unstoned
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SanFranGrower
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4/5/01 02:22 AM
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Re: Early Orgasms...
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Theres some stuff called Stud Spray. You can find "stud spray" or other similar products at most adult video stores. It's a topical anesthetic... you just squirt a shot or two on about 5 minutes before having intercourse. Use a finger and distribute it around.
It will desensatise you some... not completely mind you, you can still have great orgasms but it shoudl buy you the extra time your looking for. Becareful no tto use too much... if you do use too much you wont be able to cum!!! (too much I foun dto be liek 6 to 8 squirts). Also, make sure to let it dry or it will desensatise her as well.
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